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Amanda Stark

Somewhere in the Middle

Lately my left hip has been bothering me. It's ranged from tightness to actual pain, but it's been constant discomfort that's made it hard a comfortable position to sit or lay down.


I've been going back and forth between feeling frustrated by it and trying to ignore it. But then yesterday morning after I'd given up on trying to get comfortable and go back to sleep I found myself thinking thoughts like...


This is it. I'm middle aged and my body is breaking down. There's nothing I can do.

I'm probably going to need hip replacement surgery.

It might be caused by something terrible that means I'll never walk again.


I was imagining the worst case scenario and turning something uncomfortable and irritating into a major problem.

And then my brain flipped into the opposite way of thinking and starting looking for some quick fixes...


I need a muscle relaxer.

I should get some of those muscle pain patches that Shaq advertises.

I could get a massage.


In other words, I was looking for a quick fix. And let's be real, some or all of those things could help but it likely wouldn't resolve the issue long-term.


Because with my hip, as is often the case with most things, the solution is actually somewhere in the middle of a patch that covers up the problem for the short term and some major intervention like hip replacement surgery. And believing there's nothing I can do because I'm over 40 definitely doesn't help.


I tried some hip exercises and found the aha I needed. I discovered where the issue was and a way to resolve it by decreasing tightness and increasing mobility. I'll need to do these exercises regularly to solve the underlying problem and make sure I see the lasting benefits.


My hip is just an example of what I see you doing in many areas of your life.

When you're struggling in your relationship, you look for the quick fix - date nights - or assume it's a lost cause - time to get a divorce. But neither of those things address the underlying cause of the relationship struggle so you can't change it.


When you're feeling burned out or dissatisfied at work you take a day or a week off (the quick fix) or you quit and get a different job (because you think you need a major intervention). But neither of those things get to the root of why you're burned out or dissatisfied so you'll likely still feel the same after your vacation or at your new job.


Which is where coaching comes in. Like the mobility exercises for my hip, coaching helps you discover the actual source of the problem and work to change it from the inside. You'll stop telling yourself that there's nothing you can do and get to the root of why you're not feeling the way you want to on a day to day basis.


As your coach I can help you do exactly that with insights, tools and strategies that are specific to you based on your Human Design. During our time together you'll learn to make aligned decisions and how your intuition speaks to you so you can build self-trust and confidence in every area of your life.


Say yes to feeling better. Let's get started. Schedule a consult so we can talk about working together.

During the consult we'll talk about what you're looking for and what's missing. I'll lay out a process to help you get there. And then we'll decide if we want to move forward. Either way, you'll get info about your chart and some strategies you can implement right away.







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