So much of what holds you back is fear of what other people think. When it comes to trying a class at the gym, wearing bright lipstick, asking for a raise or anything else that feels like a stretch, you make up all kinds of stories about what other people will say and think.
And because your brain is hardwired to keep you safe, the scary stories you're making up feel very true. Which makes it hard to recognize that they're just something you're making up.
That's why one of my favorite questions to ask my clients is - If you’re going to make up stories, why make up bad ones?
If you’re going to make sh!t up, make it good. Instead of imagining the worst case scenario, tell yourself stories about how other people will celebrate you and be inspired by you. Not how they’ll judge and condemn you.
Here's a personal example - As I write this, I'm working at a coffee shop and the location of my table means that people behind me can see my computer screen. Because I was planning to be on Canva and Instagram I found myself worrying what these strangers would think. In my mind, they were going to judge me for not doing "serious" work.
I was tempted to abandon my plan for the afternoon in an effort to appear like I was doing real work (whatever that means). But then I reminded myself that I was just making up a story. So I made up a good one instead.
I decided to believe that they would think it was awesome that I have the kind of life/job that I can work from a coffee shop having fun on social media while wearing sequins.
That story felt so much better and meant I did what I wanted to do this afternoon, not what I thought someone else expected.
Need help making up new stories? I’ve got you! That's exactly what I can help you do as your life coach. When you work with me, you'll learn how to use your Human Design to make sure your life works with your natural rhythms and energetic make up. So it feels fulfilling, not draining.
Schedule a consult so we can talk about working together.
During the consult we'll talk about what you're looking for and what's missing. I'll lay out a process to help you get there. And then we'll decide if we want to move forward. Either way, you'll get info about your chart and some strategies you can implement right away.
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